A reader named Katie sent this powerful email. What a good reminder to get busy living::
"My brother lost his battle to cancer when he was just 24. Watching him, being near him, and seeing him was the most horrible experience I have ever had. Yet, I tried to take every second I had with him and cherish it.
He would talk to us, share his stories, and I learned that he lived more by the time he was 24 than I did -- even now, at 32. He passed away and he has inspired me to live life. Little did I know how hard that was going to be for me.
I ended up in grief therapy because I couldn't even pick my self up in the morning and I had no strength or courage like I told him I would have. I just finished reading your book today. I laughed, I cried and I had a lot of 'ah-ha!' moments. I swear you wrote this book for me!
Since my brother passed away, I tried reading many self help books on overcoming grief. What I learned from your book is -- reading about it will get me nowhere -- and fast! I have to do, see, and live. My brother inspired me to go back to school and get my degree. I have always wanted that for me and never had the courage - because I am like you, I would sit on the sidelines and watch life go past instead of getting 'messy' in life.
I will graduate with my BS in Social Psychology this May and begin Grad school in the fall. I would like to become a bereavement counselor and help those who are suffering and give back to others what others have been so wonderful at offering myself and my brother.
I saw so much of me in your book. Out of the MANY things I will take from this book, life lesson # 42, on page 193 was my most inspirational moment. 'When you finally let go of the person you used to be, you get to discover the person you are now and the person you want to become'
For a very long time, I clung to my past because it was what I knew. The future holds such uncertainty, and I have no control in that. My therapist told me that it is amazing how much more control we have, when we learn to let go of the control we thought we had.
Your book gave me hope, and some lessons to really live by. I wish you all the best in living in the 'messy' world that is out there for you! I'm sure there is a whole lot of mess for me to get myself into! Now off to work to begin living to person 'I' was meant to be."