March 31st, 2011 by Regina Brett

My daughter and her husband are trying to sell their house. They've got a new baby on the way and a 2-year-old son who need more breathing room.

 

The good thing is, their home never looked cleaner. With open houses every few days, the table shines, the floor sparkles, the place looks like they evicted the toddler. Until he gets home after each open house and dumps his trains and trucks on the couch.

 

Another good thing, they come over here during the open houses so I get more grandbaby time.

 

So how do you sell a house in this market? I learned these tips from my guests on "The Regina Brett Show" on WKSU 89.7 last night:

 

See your house through the eyes of the buyers. Add some curb appeal, plants, a coat of paint on the porch, fix the mail box that's hanging, hang a wreath on the door.

 

Smell your house through their noses. If you have a cat or dog, light some candles, spray some Fabreeze on the furniture.

 

Add lighting, declutter, paint the walls neutral but interesting colors.

 

Connect with the buyer's emotions. They are looking for a home, not a house. Set the table, dress up the bedrooms with fluffy pillows, make the bathroom look like a spa.

 

You might like it so much you decide to stay.

 

March 23rd, 2011 by Regina Brett

Should organ transplants favor the young?

Should someone who has already had a transplant that failed be given a second one before someone else has had a first?

Should the condemned on Death Row be allowed to donate their organs?

Lots of ethical issues to discuss. We'll do our best to cover them and separate fact from fiction on "The Regina Brett Show" tonight at 7 p.m. on WKSU.89.7 FM. Or listen to the show later at www.wksu.org/regina/

Our guests include Lynda Corea, whose son was an organ recipient and a donor. Hadie Bartholomew from Lifebanc, Dr. Robert Schilz, a lung transplant surgeon at University Hospitals, Dr. Martin Smith, a clinical ethicist from the Cleveland Clinic and Dr. Jay Lowney from matchingdonors.com

Call the show with your questions or comments at 888-957-8897 or email during the show: regina@wksu.org

Are you willing to donate your organs? I am. In the U.S. alone, 19 people die every day waiting for an organ transplant.

As the bumper sticker says, Please don't take your organs to heaven. Heaven knows we need them here.

March 21st, 2011 by Regina Brett

It's too much to absorb.

 

A 9.0 earthquake.

A tsunami.

A nuclear nightmare that hasn't ended.

 

Reader Izumi Sugiyama from Japan sent me this email soon after the quake hit:

 

"Dear Regina I am sending this mail from Japan. You know we are in catastlophy. I am living Yokohama where is near Tokyo. Everyday many earthquake and TV and news give us scary. People is chacing foods, water and baterry over their capacity.

 

My friends and I am keeping touch strongly. I bought your book Japnese version last week before the earthquake. I am very scary to sleep, I think if big earthquake comes when I am sleeping.

 

We Japanese know how scary big earthqacke. I am reading your book when I go to bed. It give me the feeling of peaceful. Thanks of your book, I can sleep. Thank you. If possible, please pray for Japan. Many people died, and many people will be died. Our life totally changed. Your book give me the hope present time."

 

The people of Japan need our prayers and our support. There are many ways to send help. Here are a few:

 

American Red Cross

 Doctors Without Borders

 Save the Children

 Americares

 

 When people ask, Where is God in the midst of such a tragedy? The answer is, in each of us. Do whatever you can to offer hope.

 

March 11th, 2011 by Regina Brett

A reader named Katie sent this powerful email. What a good reminder to get busy living::

 

"My brother lost his battle to cancer when he was just 24. Watching him, being near him, and seeing him was the most horrible experience I have ever had. Yet, I tried to take every second I had with him and cherish it.

 

He would talk to us, share his stories, and I learned that he lived more by the time he was 24 than I did -- even now, at 32. He passed away and he has inspired me to live life. Little did I know how hard that was going to be for me.

 

I ended up in grief therapy because I couldn't even pick my self up in the morning and I had no strength or courage like I told him I would have. I just finished reading your book today. I laughed, I cried and I had a lot of 'ah-ha!' moments. I swear you wrote this book for me!

 

Since my brother passed away, I tried reading many self help books on overcoming grief. What I learned from your book is -- reading about it will get me nowhere -- and fast! I have to do, see, and live. My brother inspired me to go back to school and get my degree. I have always wanted that for me and never had the courage - because I am like you, I would sit on the sidelines and watch life go past instead of getting 'messy' in life.

 

I will graduate with my BS in Social Psychology this May and begin Grad school in the fall. I would like to become a bereavement counselor and help those who are suffering and give back to others what others have been so wonderful at offering myself and my brother.

 

I saw so much of me in your book.  Out of the MANY things I will take from this book, life lesson # 42, on page 193 was my most inspirational moment. 'When you finally let go of the person you used to be, you get to discover the person you are now and the person you want to become'

 

For a very long time, I clung to my past because it was what I knew. The future holds such uncertainty, and I have no control in that. My therapist told me that it is amazing how much more control we have, when we learn to let go of the control we thought we had.

 

Your book gave me hope, and some lessons to really live by. I wish you all the best in living in the 'messy' world that is out there for you! I'm sure there is a whole lot of mess for me to get myself into! Now off to work to begin living to person 'I' was meant to be."

March 10th, 2011 by Regina Brett

So my little buddy turned 2 yesterday.

 

Asher walked around saying, "Ather birthday. Ather is 2!" then held up five fingers. Guess counting comes a little later in life.

 

His mom made him a John Deere tractor cake. The icing on the tires (cupcakes) was so black we were all afraid to eat it. She made it so authentic, she crumbled brown crumbs on the tires to look like dirt. Asher wanted to play with the cake and wouldn't take a bite.

 

He's at the age where he loves everything equally. He treasures every book and orders, "Read." Every truck, and orders, "Play." Not a bad way to spend your days reading and playing.

 

In the two years he's made me a grandma, it's been a real joy. He's taught me to be present in this moment, nowhere else. Hope we get to stay in that moment together for a long time.

 

 

March 7th, 2011 by Regina Brett

My daughter just turned 33. Her son turns 2 this week.

 

How is it I still feel 25 on the inside?

 

I used to call my daughter every birthday morning at 6:21 a.m. to replay the moment of her birth. This year I let her sleep in. But I thought about that moment she was born, when I first met her and saw those big blue eyes scanning my face, asking, "Are you my mother?"

 

When you give birth to a child you give birth to yourself. You are  a new creation, a mother. It's the greatest job in the world, until your baby has her own baby and you become a grandmother.

 

Pure joy. That's the only word that fits. For my daughter's birthday, my grandson had a sleepover here. He's pure boy. He's already pulled the heads off his mom's old Barbie dolls. We spent hours on the floor digging pretend dirt -- Rice Krispies -- into dump trucks and reading about Pooh and Piglet looking for Woozles.

 

You may have to get older, but you never have to grow up.

 

 

 

 

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